Straight dating bi
Being bisexual can be a marginalizing experience in both queer and hetero spaces.As a bisexual, feminine presenting woman of color, I’ve been told everything from “you just haven’t come out as fully gay yet” to “you’re not queer, you’re just curious.” I’ve even had potential partners tell me “I would never date you because you would cheat on me with someone from another gender.” These comments are all based on harmful stereotypes of bisexual folks as promiscuous and closeted.For the sake of today’s post, I think we need to clarify the different types of bisexual women that exist. If a girl kissed a girl and she liked it, she legitimately liked women or was at least experimenting to discover herself.Today, women make out with other women to increase their likes on Instagram. In my opinion, there are approximately three types of bisexual women.To clear up the myths, here’s what actually true and what’s certainly not – the “facts.” Bisexual people, especially bisexual women, are often sexualized: We’re good for a romp in the sack, the logic goes, but not good enough to take home to the parents.The sexualization stems from visualizing bisexuality not as a sexual identity on par with heterosexuality or homosexuality, but as a sex act.I also started to realize that strict monogamy may not be the best idea for me.
I never gave myself the chance to think about it because I was safe where I was.
(At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way.) A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination (my boyfriend had left at this point) and tells me in a sly voice, ' I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we?
That was just a phase.'" "I'm a bi/pansexual woman married to a straight man. My parents never said that homosexuality was wrong, but they never really said it was OK either. But my church made it clear to me as a young person that it was only OK to be straight.
They may spurn them to avoid bi people romantically altogether, or even engage in damaging biphobia.
It’s time we all realized that bisexual people are just as good relationship material as anyone else – and that most of the assumptions about dating bi people aren’t true.
(Well, that and “I’m still living in my parent’s basement.”) That fear often stems from a misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual.